Ann Booker @ BroadView Counselling, Psychotherapy & CBT in Chesham

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About Therapy

Does Therapy work?

What's the difference between Counselling & Psychotherapy?

But how can talking fix anything?

How often does it happen?

How long does it take?


Does Therapy work?

Counselling and psychotherapy can make a significant difference. That said, therapy can only offer you a possibility of change - the process of change rests in your hands. In a sense, the therapist's job is to escort you on that journey of change - not to tell you what to do or where to go.
It's not crazy people who go to therapy - its people who want to feel fitter emotionally. Think of it like going to the gym but for the emotions. You don't have to be a complete wreck physically before you go to a gym to exercise - in fact a lot of healthy people go to the gym to feel even fitter. Therapy is like this - a space to work-out on those emotions.
You may be thinking about therapy because life has become intolerable - well maybe it seems that way. The very fact that you are looking at therapy websites could be seen as a positive sign - a belief somewhere deep inside that things can be different. And you'd be right. You might get there on your own or with the help of good friends; when those supports aren't working or available to us the trust and patience of an empathic and understanding therapist can give us the encouragement to make the steps forward in our life.
Perhaps its not that your life is in crisis, but maybe it has lost some of its meaning, or you are lacking the 'zest' you used to have. Sometimes we need a sounding board to bounce ideas off, sometimes it’s because we recognise that something in our personality consistently holds us back and now finally its time to find a way to move on.
Change is possible. The question is how long do you want to feel like this and is there a way of getting there quicker. Change is possible. Life can be better.

What's the difference Between Counselling & Psychotherapy?

Counselling and psychotherapy are synonymous terms for what we know as the 'talking cure'. Counselling tends to refer to short term work focussed on an immediate issue such as divorce or a change of work circumstances. Psychotherapy is a term more often associated with the longer term work - changing the 'I've always...' or 'why does this keep happening to me?' the patterns which shape our lives. In all other ways they are one and the same. I tend to use the term 'therapy' to describe both.
What happens in a therapy session?
You as the client will describe what you see as the problem and how it affects you. The job of the therapist is to listen and understand and to explore with you the aspects of the problem that are not immediately obvious. The whole basis of the relationship is that the therapist, being outside the problem, has no agenda and will be endeavouring to understand you from an unbiased viewpoint.

But how can talking fix anything?

Part of what makes us human is our need for a sense of 'connectedness' with others - we are social creatures and it is in the quality of our connections and relationships with others that determines to a greater extent our emotional well-being. Being truly heard and understood is a powerful experience; developing the skill to hear ourselves more fully is another significant aspect of what makes for effective and therapeutic growth.
Therapy is about a relationship built on trust and respect. A place where it is safe to explore how we feel or think about things without being mocked or ridiculed, where things disclosed in confidence stay that way.

How often does it happen?

Therapy sessions are usually once a week. It seems that generally this is the most effective frequency as it gives time for the understandings and insights from each session to sink in and make sense whilst keeping up the momentum of change.

How long does it take?

There are many variables, however in my experience, if the issue relates to something recent or is a new occurrence then some positive change and improvement is usually possible in a short time frame – say six sessions, indeed I would expect to see at least some change within that time even with longer term clients. If the issue is life-long - a persistent feeling of being worthless for example then it is going to take longer - not least because the longer you have spent telling yourself (or being told by those around you) that you are useless, the longer it takes to undo that programming. You might expect a year of work, perhaps two. The best way is to try a bit - get some change achieved and decide if you want to build on that initial success, working in stages.


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